Roofied? At our age?


A professional woman with a solid reputation and strong morals in her forties doesn’t get roofied, right? Especially not at a professional meet-and-greet the night before she is scheduled to address a large conference of her engineering peers. By a colleague she worked with for years? And yet, my friend Mary Ottman is not alone. Other professional women have whispered privately of awaking in terrifying circumstances, amidst confusion and horror, unable to speak or defend themselves.

We stereotype the words roofie and date rape when we think that the crime happens to drunken party-girl coeds who hang out at bars with too many frat boys.

The top definition is “When someone spikes your drink with a drug without your knowledge,” according to Roofie is slang for Rohypnol, developed as a sleep aide, it’s infamously used to sexually assault unsuspecting people.

Even women who make it a habit to limit themselves to one drink or less, find that the confusion induced by the drug is so great that they believe they complied in a drunken stuper. For some women, it takes days, even weeks, to piece together what actually happened. By the time they realize they were maliciously drugged, the evidence is out of their system. In fact, the evidence in the blood stream dissipates within hours, typically less than 72 hours, according to The mental fog and emotional despair can linger for much longer, in part because Rohypnol induces amnesia.

So, imagine my surprise when Mary agreed to come on Fireside Talk Radio and share her story for the first time publicly. Believe me, we prayed right up until she went on air and I am still praying for her. Our enemy the devil does not like it when we speak clearly about his destructive tactics, warning others to keep safe.

How does the drug effect a person? How can we be fore-warned and thus, fore-armed? Mary tenderly shares what she learned when reality set in after the initial trauma and shock wore off. She is no wimp, either, so her advice is all about victory and courage.

Her message is so powerful you will not want to miss it, Sexual Assault and Courage at Listen and then, PLEASE, share it with your daughters and friends of all ages.

I asked her to come back and talk from her experience as a boss, executive, engineer by training, and a wise woman by decision. In a show we called Easy Does It: Passing Along Hard-Won Wisdom, she shares her tips on self-diagnosing ways to become a trusted and insightful leader.

Mary’s resume is impressive, but of course, the thing I most admire is her spirit and courage. May her courage help keep you safe, dear reader.

Cathy Primer Krafve, aka Checklist Charlie, lives and writes with a Texas twang. Contact her at


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